Each person should judge his own actions and not compare himself with others. Then he can be proud for what he himself has done. Galatians 6:4

Friday, June 01, 2007

"Through skillful and godly Wisdom is a house (a life, a home, a family) built, and by understanding it is established [on a sound and good foundation]," ~Proverbs 24:3

All signs are from the web-site http://www.berrycountrycrafts.com/ they are so cute.. so if your up to buying a sign.. I suggest them.. Ü or if you like me.. you can make your own..

I was challenged by MERE to describe what a HOME is to me.. WOW!! What home for me now was totally different when I was little... When I was little Home was NOT a safe Haven. As I child I use to feel cheated because I had the family I had.. and many nights I would lay awake and ask God "Why did you give me these parents? These parents who truly don't want me"? This day I would totally be heartbroken if my children laid in their beds night after night wanting answers to that same question.

I grew up in a home with an alcoholic father and a manipulating, turn the other way mother. Neither one knew how to hug, listen or even say the words "I Love You".. I am 34 years old and I have NEVER EVER in my life heard my parents tell me that they Love me. Now imagine the thought of you NEVER telling your child those words... I can't.. and never want to imagine that for my own children.

Growing up we were poor.. we had a horrible home... scarce amount of clothes... and our lunches for school on some days consisted of lettuce and mustard sandwiches.. if there was a lunch. When I was younger there were no "FREE" lunches provided... we didn't have hot lunch until we hit highschool but by then I had a job and paid for my own food. Maybe that's one of the reasons I struggle with food?

When I was much younger.. I dreamed of owning a BIG FARM HOUSE.. with a HUGE farm.. I was going got marry a FARMER... LOL LOL You know there had to be a lot of love in such a huge setting... and I was going to have a lot of kids and animals.... Well.. none of that actually happened... well.. I do have lots of kids here.. and I can categorize some of them as animals.. right?? har har!! But it wasn't til I really started my family that I realized it isn't the "things" you have in your house that makes it a home.. it's the comfort level you give to those that enter that make it a home. A home is a place where you can fee SAFE, LOVED and WANTED.. and as a mother NEEDED... It's a place where you can hear "I love you" bounce off the walls when you walk into every room... It doesn't have to be spotless.. in fact it should look lived in... It's a place where you can come to cry and share your sorrows with those that truly know you.. and understand.. It's a place where you can do your happy dances... and sing unto the Lord as if only HE were watching and loving every tune you carried!

I didn't live in a home where Christ was the center.. for me it's a day to day struggle and process to remember it is HE whom has given me this house.. it is HE that has provided for us.. It is a GIFT that will prepare me for the home we will have in heaven....

"As for me and my household, we will serve the Lord" Joshua 24:15

Believe it or not.. I do like housework.. I love being in my home and working hard to provide a clean, quiet and comfy atmosphere. I love to decorate country style.. ( I actually bought an old gas Lantern today.. it's so cute).. Quilts, pillows and yummy smells I feel are inviting to those who come to spend time with you. I love to make my home feel inviting.. I love the feeling of providing by canning, preserving, and baking fresh foods...

I feel that I have achieved that... It's heartwarming to know that when a child needs a place to go.. that they KNOW that they can walk through my door.. no questions asked.. This goes to my children especially.. they will ALWAYS hear the words 'I love you' or 'welcome home.. how was your day'.... I want my children and grandchildren to hear the words "I love you" between my husband and I and see the playful kisses we give one another.. no matter where we go when we part we give a kiss... Home is a place where you can call one another by nicknames.. or tell jokes.. and everyone giggles..

My Home has no...




it does not use the words "too busy"

My Home has....






and always COOKIES!! Ü

And my favorite "rule" of all...


Sharon said...

I pray that God continues to heal your heart. I had Christian parents and there were still many hurts.
I heard I love you--but never I am proud of you. I was in my early 30's before my Dad told me he was proud of me. I became a people pleaser because that is what I thought I had to do to get love. God has cured me of that I think/hope/pray.
I am so glad you are the Wife and Mother you are. It takes quite a bit to break the chains that Satan has bound us with. You are loved.
Your Daddy God in heaven loves you so--I guess you know that now-- love abounds in your home.

Mere said...

Wow! Thank you for sharing this with me....and I applaud you...because you have become an AWESOME person despite life's many struggles.....and the hand you've been dealt. Believe it or not....our home wasn't and still isn't perfect....I live with a bipolar and ADHD brother....let me tell you...I have my days....as we all do. You are truly amazing, flip flop. I am blessed to know you. I really am. You are in my prayers....and again....thank you.

Luv ya, Mere

Susanne said...

I love how you shared what you have learned a home is when you started a family. That was very moving.

Cris said...

LOL, love that last sign. LOL.

Wonderful post today. :)

Trish D said...

Thank you so much for sharing; what a testimony to God's grace that you've come so far.

I did not have that sort of childhood - in fact I was raised in a Christian home - but there are still many, MANY things that we are doing differently with our children. No home is perfect, and I just pray that our kids will learn from our mistakes and do even better with their young'uns :)

BTW, are you familiar with Mary DeMuth? I think you'd like her writings, and she has a great blog called Pioneer Parenting - http://www.pioneerparenting.blogspot.com/

Kerry said...

Beautiful post.

cajunquilter said...

oh sweetie, i know that you have come through alot. and it blesses me so to know how God has "grown you up" to be the woman, wife and mom you are. You are such a blessing to so many people. Our lives parallel in many ways as children, as you know. But God is faithful and He loves us with an unending love.

Melissa said...

Powerful post.....so glad to have found your blog...I am sure your example and encouragement bless many in your life...it has blessed me today.
Melissa S.